12月1日晚6：30，國際部初中段第二期家長課堂準(zhǔn)時(shí)上線。本次活動(dòng)再次邀請(qǐng)郭峰博士做客心理講堂，同初小段心理老師孫凡帆一同探討青春期孩子和家長溝通中的普遍困擾。

活動(dòng)以訪談形式在輕松自如的環(huán)境下分別針對(duì)家長之前的反饋?zhàn)龀隽艘灰唤獯?，問題包括“孩子表現(xiàn)出對(duì)于問題片面的理解”該如何引導(dǎo)，“孩子拒絕溝通怎么辦”，“孩子情緒化持續(xù)的時(shí)間”，“電子產(chǎn)品的使用”，“家長如何調(diào)節(jié)自己在孩子人際關(guān)系網(wǎng)中的位置”，“家長和學(xué)生如何感知壓力”，“家長該如何識(shí)別以及實(shí)施幫助”等。

活動(dòng)中郭峰博士給到了許多易于操作的小貼士。

首先對(duì)于情緒問題的處理，要秉持理解包容的心態(tài)，先讓孩子自我平復(fù)。也許只是靜靜的陪伴，也許是通過行為讓孩子知道，“我在傾聽你”，“我會(huì)包容你的情緒”，“你的情緒是正常的”。等孩子平復(fù)下來之后，再嘗試讓孩子打開心扉。

當(dāng)談及與青春期孩子溝通時(shí)的底線問題，郭峰博士認(rèn)為，應(yīng)該與孩子一起建立底線，而非簡(jiǎn)單地將家長對(duì)孩子的期待當(dāng)做底線。與孩子一起設(shè)定目標(biāo)是一個(gè)好的方法，可以讓家長和孩子站在同一陣營，為良好的親子關(guān)系共同努力。

針對(duì)青春期的孩子自制力弱，容易對(duì)電子游戲上癮這一問題，郭峰博士指出，家長可以幫助孩子豐富自己的生活，讓電子游戲成為孩子的喜好之一。但如何讓學(xué)習(xí)成為孩子的愛好呢？這就需要家長們引導(dǎo)孩子關(guān)注自我價(jià)值的實(shí)現(xiàn)。但講道理的方式往往會(huì)適得其反，放手讓孩子去探索可能是最有效的道路。

最后郭峰教授認(rèn)為，良好的親子關(guān)系需要家長的主動(dòng)參與和調(diào)節(jié)。若家長始終保持情緒的穩(wěn)定，成為孩子的靠山和堅(jiān)不可摧的港灣，那么很多問題便都迎刃而解。

本次家長課堂中，兩位專業(yè)老師的對(duì)談使得對(duì)問題的探討更加深入，對(duì)問題的解決更加具有操作性，受到了線上家長們的熱烈好評(píng)。希望這些小妙計(jì)能夠幫助家長們游刃有余地處理這些問題，共建和諧的親子關(guān)系。

At 6:30 p.m. on December 1, the second middle school parents’ workshop was launched. This time we again invited Dr. Guo Feng as the lecturer, and together with Ms. Sun Fanfan, the psychology teacher of SHSID middle and primary school, they discussed the common problems in the communication between adolescent children and parents. 

In the form of interviews and in a relaxed environment, they answered the previous feedback of parents one by one, including “How to guide children so their understanding of problems won’t be one-sided?” “What to do if children refuse to communicate?” “Children can be emotional for how long?” “How to appropriately use electronic products?” “How can parents adjust their position in their children’s interpersonal network?” “How can parents and students perceive pressure?” “How can parents identify and implement help?” and more. 

During this activity, Dr. Guo Feng gave many easy-to-use tips. First of all, when dealing with emotional problems, we should adhere to the attitude of understanding and tolerance, and let the child calm down first. Maybe it’s just quiet company, or let the child know through behaviors: “I’m listening to you,” “I’ll tolerate your emotions,” “your emotions are normal.” After the child calms down, try to let the child open their heart. When talking about the bottom line communicating with adolescent children, Dr. Guo Feng believes that we should establish the bottom line with children, rather than simply regard parents’ expectations for children as the bottom line. Setting goals with children is a good way to let parents and children stand in the same camp and work together for a good parent-child relationship. 

Regarding the problem that adolescent children have weak self-control and are easy to become addicted to video games, Dr. Guo Feng pointed out that parents can help children enrich their lives and make video games only one of their children’s preferences. But how to make learning into a child’s hobby? This requires parents to guide children to pay attention to the realization of self-worth. However, the way of reasoning is often counterproductive, letting children explore may be the most effective way. 

Finally, Professor Guo Feng believes that a good parent-child relationship requires parents’ active participation and adjustment. If parents always maintain emotional stability and become their children’s backer and indestructible harbor, many problems will be solved. In this parents’ workshop, the conversation between the two professional teachers made the discussion more in-depth and the solution of problems more practical, which was warmly praised by parents online. We hope these tips can help parents deal with these problems with ease and build a harmonious parent-child relationship.